I think of all the things that I'm afraid of, silly things in my little life that take courage, and the little "problems" that keep me awake at night, and then I read something like this and realize what true bravery is. Single Dad Laughing's newest post, Anything Other Than Straight. I've already seen his courage in the posts, I'm Christian, Unless You're Gay and 16 Ways I Blew My Marriage, but his latest took some serious gumption to write. When reading it, I was reminded again that I have no problems, no reason to be up worrying at night, nothing to complain about, no reason to feel uncomfortable in my own skin when there are people struggling so hard just to be allowed to say who they are.
I am fed up with the ridiculous notion that homosexuality is a choice. I think that anyone who believes that has never had a conversation with someone who is gay. As a straight an as arrow female who was always attracted to the opposite sex, I never understood homosexuality until I did open my mind and begin conversing on the subject, right from the source. The act of homosexuality literally turns my stomach because I am not gay. But that doesn't mean it isn't real! Heterosexuality may seem just as revolting to a person of same-sex orientation. I soon began to see it from another point of view when a homosexual co-worker told me that even though he had been in a relationship with his partner for 20 years, he still couldn't tell his parents because his father would have disowned him and his mother would have keeled right over from a massive heart attack, the shock would have been so great. As a mother, this was one of the most heartbreaking things I had ever heard. Of course I would want my children at any age to be able to come to me with anything. Of course I would accept them for who they are no matter what. How sad that some parents have conditions.
Then I imagined how it would feel if the majority of people were homosexual and if homosexuality was the "norm" and heterosexuals were expected to conform, to pray the straight away as homophobes expect homosexuals to "pray the gay away". Could I force myself to be a homosexual to fit into society and keep my family happy if that were the norm? No way. How ridiculous is that?! Celibacy would be my life choice and I'm sure it would be a sad, miserable, fearful life to hide what I really felt. I can't do that to anyone else, so even though I'm straight, I can't think less of someone who courageous enough to face criticism for living their true lives. I don't think anyone should. And I don't mean that I "love them anyway". I'm sick to death of such statements, I mean that I really get it. I can never relate, but I see it. What I mean is that everyone should take another look and really see what your Bible says about it if that's the premise you are so adamant to stand on concerning homosexuality.
And anyone who wants to quote Leviticus to me (yes I've read 18:22 and studied the entire book) should read every verse to gain understanding, particularly chapters 18-20. Along with famed "thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind" is the law that menstruating women should not be approached but separated from all of society because they are unclean, two different seeds should not be planted in the same field, any man with any blemishes such as "a flat nose", "blind", "broken handed", "a dwarf", "scabbed" were not to be allowed to make an offering to God, hair and beards were not to be trimmed, no marks or cuttings upon the body were to be made, no garment was to mingled of wool and linen, and if you planted a fruit tree you were not to even dare eat the fruit for three years.
So...until people quit cutting their hair and shaving, stop square-foot gardening, wearing wool blend clothing and hanging earrings from holes in their ears, noses, lips, whatever, and women start "going to the river" every month because they are "unclean" I don't think they should say one word against homosexuality. A beard trim is apparently as much an abomination to God as homosexuality. It is what it is. And for those who want to preach all day, the Bible states what it states. You can't focus on one portion and ignore the rest. Well I guess you can if you want to and there lies the problem.
So why these days in modern times do we trim beards and hair, square-foot garden, wear wool blends, put holes in our ears to dangle earrings from, when they were all marked as abominations in the Old Testament? You could say that the old ways are no longer relevant. You could say, if a Christian, as evangelicals preach every day, that when Christ sacrificed himself for mankind, the need to follow the old laws was eliminated. So what of homosexuality? I don't know. I just refuse to believe that someone of a homosexual orientation is sinning by being who they were made to be by the same creator that made me, and I applaud the commando-like courage it takes for anyone to stand for what they believe and say "This is who I am!".
Single Dad Laughing had this married mom sniffling in her coffee this morning. BRAVO!!